In today’s world we’ve become obsessed with perfectionist attitude. Be it in ourselves, others, or our surroundings, the pursuit of flawlessness has overshadowed essential human values like affection, acceptance, and kindness. This relentless chase for perfection often blinds us to the innate beauty that already exists in our lives.
The fixation on perfection often comes at a hefty price. In workplaces, for example, the focus on impeccable results tends to ignore the well-being of employees and oneself. Parents try to mould their children into ideal versions, bosses demand flawless outputs from employees, and individuals harshly criticise themselves for falling short of their standards.
This creates a ripple effect of dissatisfaction. The desire for perfection often leads to constant criticism of things that don’t align with our definition of “perfect”. Instead of enjoying the present moment and its simple joys, we become irritated and stressed, losing peace of mind and straining relationships.
Even when perfection is achieved, it often comes with a cost: compromised mental health, strained relationships, and lost happiness. We’ve set an impossible equation for ourselves: “If everything around me is perfect, then I will be at peace.” This belief not only sets us up for failure and dissatisfaction, but also robs us of our innate sense of affection and connection.
Perfection begins with affection–toward ourselves first and then others. When we approach situations with love and understanding, the results naturally improve. Perfection achieved through affection is genuine and sustainable, unlike the superficial results forced by relentless pressure.
Start by reflecting on your priorities. Instead of trying to make others perfect, ask yourself if you embody the values you expect from them. Remember, your state of mind is independent of external circumstances. Happiness and peace come from within, not from perfectly arranged conditions or flawless people.
Affection might feel challenging initially, but its long-term benefits far outweigh the temporary satisfaction of perfection. When we prioritise love and compassion, we nurture a healthy environment for ourselves and others. This shift in focus fosters genuine growth and creates a ripple effect, inspiring others to embrace their own potential.
We’ve unknowingly placed work first, people second, and ourselves last. This is like watering a plant’s leaves instead of its roots, expecting it to thrive. Instead, nurture your inner self first, extend kindness to others, and then focus on the work. When affection becomes the foundation, perfection follows naturally, making the journey both effortless and rewarding.
So, even in this festive season when you face a choice between affection and perfection, choose affection. It’s the key to unlocking long-term harmony, joy, and authentic success.
Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com [2] or WhatsApp: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica.