Feeling the holiday blues? Here’s how to find peace

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Bells are ringing and carols are singing, but you’re feeling down. You might be dealing with the holiday blues, which experts say is common. Strained family relationships, for instance, can make this season feel especially lonely. With the financial pressure of the holidays, stress can quickly build up. Anxiety about the season can also heighten depression and intensify existing mental health challenges.

“A lot of people at certain years can find the holidays to be more challenging than they have experienced in past years,” said Shilagh Mirgain, a psychologist at UW Health in Madison, Wisconsin. “It’s important to recognise the common humanity that others, too, are struggling. You’re not alone.”

Here’s what experts say you can do to make your holiday season a little more bearable, if not cheery:

If family time is stressful, set boundaries: Decide what kind of contact you want and how long you’re comfortable staying. It’s okay to step away when needed, like taking a walk or running errands. And if stressful conversations come up, have some language ready to go to draw your boundaries quickly and firmly.

Connect with others if you’re lonely: Schedule calls with loved ones or volunteer in your community. Giving back can boost your own well-being, and sharing memories can help if you’re grieving.

If money is making you anxious, reach out:

With gifts, dinners, and decorations, the financial strain can be overwhelming. If you’re feeling anxious, take time for self-care, like watching a movie or doing something you enjoy. If your stress intensifies, don’t hesitate to ask for help.

Set realistic expectations for the holidays: The holidays don’t need to be perfect or look like a Hallmark movie. Focus on what truly matters to you – whether it’s spending time with loved ones or enjoying a quiet meal. Let go of the pressure to do everything and embrace a simpler, more meaningful celebration. It’s okay to keep things low-key.