Dwight Fletcher | The truth about sex

IT IS God who created us as sexual beings, male and female. God didn’t accidentally create us, and therefore, our sexuality isn’t an accident, regardless of the circumstances of our birth. God created us the way He did on purpose. When God looks at us, He sees our sexual identity and gender identity as the same. We were created male and female for God’s purpose,and we are to live out that identity. When it comes to sex, God’s plan is for heterosexual sex. Any other sexual expression is wrong.

God has a plan for our sex life individually. Jesus gave us a very clear summary of what the Bible teaches about sex and relationships. Using passages in Genesis, Jesus said, “‘Haven’t you read,’ he replied, ‘that at the beginning the Creator “made them male and female,” 5 and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh”? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.’” Matthew 19:4-6 (NIV).

God established marriage when He joined Adam and Eve together and commanded them to have sexual relations and multiply. According to the Bible, sex is meant for marriage, and a fulfilling sexual life is the outcome of a satisfying marital relationship. In other words, pure sex thrives only when it’s in the sphere of committed love. As per God’s plan, sex is reserved for a marriage relationship between a man and a woman, and it should last for a lifetime.

In the media, sex is often portrayed as more important than the relationship required for marriage, which is incorrect and can lead to disaster. God created sex for specific purposes and intended it to serve those purposes.

Sex has multiple purposes, one of which is for pleasure. According to God’s plan, sex is meant to be enjoyed by one man and one woman who are married to each other. The Bible commands that “The husband should fulfil his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfil her husband’s needs.” 1 Corinthians 7:3 (NLT). There are parts of our anatomy that have no other purpose but sexual pleasure. We can be creative, but we must keep it clean. Sexual intimacy is not only physically pleasurable, but it can also be spiritually fulfilling. Moreover, it is a unique experience that a man should share only with his wife and not with any other woman. Hence, it should be considered a sacred time for spouses to connect and deepen their bond.

Another purpose for sex is procreation. “God blessed them and said to them, be fruitful and increase in number…” Genesis 1:28 (NIV). This is one command of God that we usually have no problem obeying. We have filled the earth. The problem we have is that much of it is being done outside the boundaries of marriage. This has caused much pain. Pain for women, pain for men and pain for children. In Jamaica, we have generations of pain caused by single-parent homes, angry men and angry women. We are transferring the pain from one generation to the next, and it has become transgenerational pain.

We need to stop the cycle because it is tearing the fabric of our society apart by creating broken, angry, and hurting people.