Treat Her… Just Because

She is a woman. She is strong, powerful, intelligent, effervescent, charming and enchanting. She is a mother, wife, girlfriend, sister, aunty and dear friend.

She gives life. She is nurturing, hard-working and feeds the most inner depths of your soul. But every now and then, she gets tired. How about restoring her energy to its miraculous beauty?

Here are a few ways you can treat her, for no reason other than just because.

Surprise her – This is a sure-fire way to get the woman of your life excited. It could range from a romantic dinner for two to couple’s drive out, or gifting her something she always wanted or would love to have, like flowers and chocolate. She will be appreciative of the well-needed break and quality time with just the two of you. If she isn’t fond of surprises, plan it in such a way that the wow factor is present.

A games night – This can either be a family games name or a game night for two. This is perfect for a day that she might have felt defeated at work. With these activities, she can reignite her winning streak and feel better about herself. This may mean making her win as well. Yes, take one for the team.

Movie time – She had a day or week from hell. Remind her of how heavenly she is by watching a movie of her choosing. It may be a rom com (romantic comedy) or one of those sappy shows. The aim is to lift her spirit, and what better way to demonstrate this than by giving her what she loves?

Give a listening ear – She probably wants to talk about it, but has no idea where to start or feels that she shouldn’t burden you. Start the conversation and really listen to her thoughts. Hold off on the advice if she doesn’t put in that request because that line of argument may cause more harm than good.

Sit in silence – If she isn’t the talker and would much rather sit in silence, then you can choose to either give her space or sit in silence with her. Even if you’re itching to bring up issues of any time, don’t. Just give her a moment or five of quiet.

Be her chef – A woman loves a man who can cook, so if you possess that skill, be her executive chef for the night. Prepare her favourite meal and let her taste buds experience the wonders of flavour. She will be happy in no time. After all, that’s one less responsibility to have. Tackle wash-up duty as well and you would be winning in more ways than one.

Give her a night off – This may not seem like a big deal, but for a girlfriend or wife who is also working full-time and doing motherly duties daily, a night off sounds like perfection. You can take care of the children, deal with dinner, clean up and bedtime, while she catches up on rest and relaxation. She will love you even more than she did before.

Be her masseuse – Ease the tension and free those stressful energies from her body by offering a massage. It can be a foot rub or a back rub and you can opt to keep it casual or go sensual. Read the room before doing so and pamper away.

Shower or bath – Suggesting that you do something as mundane as shower her or draw her a bath will do wonders. She could be too tired to even think about bathing and there you are, rescuing her from herself. Be the hero for your heroine and lather her up – she will love it. If she asks you to join in on the water and soap festivities, why not?

Dance with her – Reggae singer Beres Hammond once sang about what one dance can do. So try it for yourself and see. You’re probably thinking that slow jams are the way to go, but this is where knowing your queen comes in. You can read her mode and pick the genre of her choosing, or you can simply ask. Be her DJ and dance partner in one and groove her blues away.

Tap into her love language – As a firm believer of bilingual communication, that is if you and your partner speak to different love languages, now would be the time to speak her lingo. So if words of affirmation is language, shower her with compliments and encouragement. Or if she is into quality time, spend some with her.

Be sensual, not sexual – There is a big difference between the two.

Take her there – But sometimes the best way to blow off some steam is to turn up the heat. Different strokes for different folks, so if her carnal desires require a pipeline, turn on your Mr Boombastic charm and give her all that she has been longing for.

krysta.anderson@gleanerjm.com