Shopaholic son

Q. My 17-year-old son maxed out my credit cards on junk online. His grandmother says that I am to forgive him and move on.

This is not the first time that he is giving trouble with money concerns. His father is not in the picture. I am planning to take him to children's services for counselling. Will they help me?

A. You need to make your son responsible for his actions. Let him work to pay back the costs incurred. It is very important that he learns to be responsible for his actions. You can go to children's services and they will guide you accordingly.

Sister act

Q. My stepsister, who I just met five years ago, is sending her three children to Jamaica for two weeks this summer.

Not only are they big eaters, I hear them talking about all the places they wish to visit. It is looking expensive to have them visit. Is it okay for me to speak with her about the costs that I will not be able to afford, such as trips to water parks? I am a civil servant with a modest salary.

A. I am sure your stepsister is responsible enough to send money to your to help you host the children. Share with her your concerns and be frank about what you will be able to offer your relatives while they are here in Jamaica.

Aunty's hospitality

Q. I was working abroad for four years but had visa problems and came home.

On returning, I left my six-year-old daughter, who is now 10, with my aunt. My 50-year-old aunt now wants to adopt my child, saying she can offer her more.

I am a HEART graduate, Level 1, who is now seeking for a domestic helper's job.

I am grateful to my aunt but want my child back. I too am now staying with her until I get a job. It is very uncomfortable at the house. What should I do?

A. Sit with your aunt and let her know you are grateful for her help so far, but you want to take care of your child.

Ask the Lord to guide you to find a job. If you have to stay at your aunt's house, offer to pay rent for you and your child. While you are at your aunt's house, be very helpful and mannerly and respectful. In the meanwhile, check the HEART programme and see if you can upgrade your skills.

Orlean Brown-Earle, PhD, is a child psychologist and family therapist. Responses to concerns are to be considered as general, as cases shared with psychologists privately would be queried more deeply. Email questions to helpline@gleanerjm.com or send to Ask the Doc, c/o The Gleaner Company, 7 North Street, Kingston.