Harmful consequences of being judgemental

In today’s world, most of us tend to make judgements about the world around us. It is a part of our cognitive process to analyse, interpret and label information in order to make sense of our environment. To this extent, it serves a useful purpose. However, when the judgements become critical and negative, taking the form of adverse assumptions or opinions based on limited information or pre-conceived notions, the consequences can be harmful.

When we judge anyone, based on their appearance, behaviour or beliefs, we limit our understanding of who they truly are. By making such assumptions, we deny ourselves the opportunity to learn from and appreciate the diversity of others. We also create misunderstandings and harm relationships by putting up a barrier between ourselves and others. For example, if we assume that someone is dishonest or untrustworthy, we are likely to treat them with suspicion or contempt. Such an attitude can foster a negative and toxic environment and lead to conflicts. By judging others harshly, we also invite others to do the same which leads to a culture of criticism and negativity that erodes trust, respect and empathy which are essential for healthy relationships.

HARMS MENTAL HEALTH

Being judgemental harms our own mental health. Just as when parents or teachers judge a child based on his academic performance, the mental abilities of the child decrease; instead, ignoring the present status and appreciating his strengths will result in an empowered personality. Our judgements are often a projection of our insecurities and our notions of superiority or inferiority. When we judge others based on their race, gender or religion we contribute to the existing divisions and inequality in society, unwittingly fuelling discrimination. This perpetuates a cycle of hatred and intolerance which has plagued the world for centuries.

But how do we become more inclusive, tolerant and compassionate in the face of adverse circumstances and people?

The key is to recognise our true identity and our eternal connection with others. We are all part of one human family playing our varied roles. Understanding this spiritual kinship fosters better understanding and bonds of love. Where there is spiritual love, there is empathetic discernment, not judgement. There is appreciation, goodwill and support to help the other person overcome weaknesses they might have.

It helps us to remember, just as we are not perfect and we accept our flaws, others too might have some weaknesses which need acceptance, which therefore does not define them. Would we like to be judged solely on the basis of our defects? So, how fair is it to do the same to others? This understanding helps to create an environment of mutual respect and compassionate world.

- Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Center, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Email: kingston@jm.brahmakumaris.org. Or follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica