‘Being’ is the only way to giving

Every day, the greatest gift we wish to give our loved ones is love and happiness. Spending time with them, buying them comforts, supporting them, yet sometimes we find them unhappy. Why? Have you noticed that when you are unhappy, you have to put in more effort to fulfil your roles and responsibilities? Despite your extra efforts, family and friends might not be happy, leaving you wondering what more you could do.

We often measure our efforts and our loved ones’ happiness against them. The truth is, the amount we do for people doesn’t matter as much as how we feel while doing it. When caring for others, thoughts of stress, fear, anxiety, anger, pain, or disappointment ruin our own happiness, preventing them from being happy with us. Without being happy ourselves, we cannot give happiness to others. Happiness is not an object which can be physically given. When we act with a joyful attitude, our positive energy spreads, triggering happiness in others.

OUTER FOLLOWS THE INNER

Whether it is happiness or love, they are not physical or tangible. Today, there is much discussion about “love languages” and “happy hormones”. We need to realise that the outer is the result of the inner. Train your mind to create the right thoughts and feelings and the right hormones will follow. Confusion over different love languages for different genders and ages will disappear. Misunderstandings arise when our gestures are empty or performed out of duty. Our expressions often focus on the external, neglecting our internal state, which leads to complexities.

We are taught to give even when we don’t have, believing that sacrificing for others is true love and selflessness. But in reality, we cannot give what we don’t have within us; Borrowing or sacrificing doesn’t work. We have seen that more than tangible things, what matters is the feeling behind them. An expensive gift may bring a brief smile, but simple things like a loving hug or a joyful smile can create lasting happiness and memories. It is time to focus on the real, lasting things rather than temporary ones.

Our energy influences the energy of others. Remind yourself as often as possible, “I am an embodiment of happiness” or “I am a loveable being”. By being first what you want to give, it becomes natural and effortless to give. When you experience unconditional love and happiness, you radiate those to everyone. You don’t even have to try to give; it happens naturally. So, let ‘being’ be your natural state of living. Let nothing and no one pull you down and your happiness will create a happy family, workplace, and world.

Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com or WhatsApp: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica.