The power of acceptance

When we hear the word ‘acceptance’, it may stir up confusion. Many believe that acceptance means tolerating wrong behaviour or being passive. But what does it mean?

IT STARTS WITH YOU

Acceptance is prioritising and maintaining your peace. It begins with accepting the whole self. When we have high expectations of ourselves, it creates inner conflict. Never forget, without accepting the present self no matter how bad it is, you can’t grow as your energy will be in constant battle between ‘who you are’ and ‘who you want to be’. Instead, invest that energy in ameliorating yourself. Rejection is very depleting.

ACCEPTANCE VS TOLERANCE

Acceptance doesn’t mean allowing or excusing wrong actions. If someone is doing something harmful, either to you or someone else, take the desired action. The confusion arises when we assume that acceptance equals passivity. The truth is, acceptance is a more nuanced concept.

The first key to acceptance is distinguishing between the person and their actions. A person is not defined by their acts. Good-hearted people may sometimes make poor decisions, and even those with bad behaviour do have the potential for good. Once we can separate the person from their actions, it becomes easier to handle situations objectively. The focus then shifts to addressing the action without judging the person.

EMPOWER YOUR MIND

The second step is empowering your mind. When faced with wrong behaviour, avoid quick judgement. Remember, the person and their actions are different. Respect their free will even if they make wrong decisions. Acceptance means staying calm and stable, responding wisely, and not letting others’ behaviour disturb your inner peace.

EXPECTATIONS AND ACCEPTANCE

One of the biggest obstacles to acceptance is expectations. When we expect people to follow our advice or change their habits, we set ourselves up for disappointment. Accepting people as they are means not expecting them to mirror our values or behaviours. We must acknowledge that everyone has different traits, and that is okay.

You can guide, advise, or even choose to distance yourself from someone’s negative traits, but without harbouring negativity towards them. It is okay to decide not to work with someone due to their behaviour, but their behaviour shouldn’t disturb your mind. Let go of expectations and allow others to be who they choose to be. This will preserve your peace and create healthier relationships.

Acceptance is freeing yourself from being affected by others’ actions while allowing them the space to change if they wish. Give the same space to your present self and better self and work on yourself with peace. Acceptance is a gift you give to yourself, which brings immense peace.

Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com or WhatsApp: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica.