Pamputtae speaks on the dating game as a single mom

Navigating the complicated dating world as a single mother can be an uphill battle. The fiercely independent nature of these women can be intimidating for most men. The game is especially difficult for single mothers as they tend to be a bit more serious and careful when choosing a mate, knowing that this person will be around their child. That much is true for dancehall artiste Pamputtae. For the artiste, born Eveanna Henry, having had her fair share of bad experiences with tumultuous relationships, when it comes to getting what she deserves, compromise is not an option.

“I’m a woman who took her time with her single self. In those times, I learnt a lot about myself - what I liked and who I was attracted to, and all of that - and so when I was ready to date again. I wasn’t going to drop my standards for anything,” she shared. She also spoke to communication and honesty being extremely important from the beginning. “Some things weh me see some woman cope wid just to be in a relationship, me nah do dat.” The artiste said that as soon as she is approached, she lets the individual know her likes and dislikes.

Pamputtae said that dating, having children, makes the territory that much more difficult because her choice in a partner would also have an impact on her kids. “I had to think differently about relationships as a single mother because a nuh any and anybody me bring round my sons.”

‘I RESPECT HIS OPINION’

While these conversations might be a little too much for her six-year-old, Jahzere, she has the discussions with her son Kavon, who is 19. “I value and respect his opinion because at the end of the day, whomever I choose to be a part of my life will be a part of theirs, and so I listen to what he has to say about men and dating.” The entertainer says that her older son, for the most part, tries not to get too involved in her personal life but admits that he has given her one particular piece of advice that she holds dear: “Me nuh fi date nuh ‘likkle bwoy’,” she said, laughing.

Although fresh off the dating scene, Pamputtae says that having been single for an undisclosed period, she believes that the best advice she could give to single mothers still hoping to find that special someone is to take time to know themselves. She said that the advice may soundlike a cliche, but it is the best way to ensure that one ends up with the best person. “If you don’t take time to know you and what you like, how are you going to ensure a man treats you the way you’re supposed to be treated?” she asked. “Stop searching for a man and do some soul searching. Get to know yourself and make nature take its course. When you do that, you will know your worth. The right person will find you.”

“Also, let them (the potential partner) know how much you love your children. If you don’t, they will treat your kids anyhow,” she continued. “And, never compare your journey to someone else’s.”